From acquisition to transmission
Bly argues the wound in modern men is the absent older man. Black Elk holds that a vision kept for oneself is a vision wasted. The last stage of manhood is making yourself available.
Being approachable
An elder is not merely old. He is safe to approach, slow to shame, and specific in counsel. Younger men test with small questions before bringing real ones — answer the small ones well.
Recording what you know
Write it down. Skills, failures, the exact cost of your worst decision. Undocumented experience dies with the man who held it.